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Hot cock isn't the only thing that can fit into a bottom's man pussy. Sure, fisting can be a little bit dangerous - but this is the land of the free and the home of the brave! Shoving your hand into your bottoms ass can teach him who is in charge and create a hot scene you both will enjoy. Wash your hands after you try it and please read our guide. We don't want any members of our community to get hurt. We just want you all to blow the biggest load you have. Face it - you don't have straight sex - why not live on the wild side once in a while!

Handballing

This came from a pamphlet put out by Trust Handballing Newsletter (SASE to Trust, c/o ASP, POB 14543, San Francisco CA 94114 for info pack). It doesn't deal with "how to do it", but "how to do it safely". If you want a "how to do it" book, see the note at the end about Trust, the Hand Book, also put out by ASP.

(An aside - why they use the term handballing over fisting): Fist-ing (fist'ing) n. 1. An archaic but prevalent term for the retrograde exploration of the digestive tract with the hand and arm, for purposes of sexual pleasure. 2. A term suggesting violence and sleaze.

Hand-ball-ing
(hand'bol ing) 1. A term for the same activity, allowing possibilities of intimate lovemaking and spiritual communion.

Handballing as Safe Sex
When the health crisis first struck, men into handballing (FF, fisting) were among the major casualties. However, information accumulated over recent years has led clear-thinking people to reevaluate. While there is still some danger involved, the risk (especially from HIV infection) is remote if participants respect safe, sane guidelines.

What is Handballing
Handballing is manipulation of the anal canal with the hand (sometimes as a fist), and occasionally the forearm. While it may sound uncomfortable and unpleasant to the unitiated, so does all sexual activity. The joy comes from the feeling, not the anatomical description. The pleasurable sensations of other anal intercourse are at play (such as manipulation of the prostate), but there is also an intense intimacy created by the very nature of the significant connectedness. Participants often describe venturing into another level of consciousness or even blasting into outer space. The receiver often reaches intense orgasms, and the top feels corresponding pleasure (often receiving orgasm himself) from the connectedness of the experience. A growing number of gay men who at one time thought that they could not find satisfying sex following safe-sex guidelines are turning to handballing as a viable alternative to activity that might involve exchanging body fluids. Many are also finding it as a beautiful and romantic way to make love. In fact, lesbians and straights are also finding this a rewarding lovemaking experience.

Avoiding Risk
The health risk comes from three areas: trauma, transfer of HIV virus and other microorganisme, and drug addiction. Each of these risks can be substantially controlled.

Trauma

  • The anal canal is a sensitive and vulnerable area. It is of utmost importance that all due care be taken to avoid injury.
    Tops should always make sure their fingernails are cut short and filed down. (gloves add additional protection here. Further, it is the bottom's perogative to inspect the top's hands - DMS)

  • The receiver should be totally cleaned out of fecal matter through enemas. Fecal mater can cause abrasions and infection. (Being clean inside is also a matter of courtesy to the top. For me, it takes three "fill and dump" to get to the point that I'm acceptably clean, and another ten or fifteen minutes to unload additional retained water. I have a shower-attached enema hose - costs about $40 mailorder. Most fountain syringes hold one quart, so take 2 fillings to fill me up sufficiently for one "cycle" - DMS).

  • Both participants should learn the ins and outs of this activity from those with experience. This is not something to try without knowledge of what you're doing (in other words, unless the top has received before, he shouldn't be topping you, except in exceptional cases - DMS)

  • While handball may be enjoyed as part of an SM situation, it is important that the top not use this as an arena for acting out power trips or creating pain. Pain in the anal canal is clear sign that this activity is being carried out with inappropriate speed and/or violence, or without proper knowledge of how it is done. The receiver witnessing pain should insist that his partner show down or cease in the activity. A small showing of blood may be caused by strained surface capillaries (or hemorrhoids that get irritated - DMS). However if there is any doubt, play should be suspended immediately. (Note: Frank Rourke suggests the bottom be aware of his medical coverage in case of emergency. Significant amounts of blood could indicate a ruptured bowel or significant tears - which should have immediate medical attention, because 90% of peritonitis victims are dead within 48 hours of the rupture of the bowel. This is VERY RARE, just like a car accident, but it can happen - DMS)

  • The top should use liberal amounts of lubricant to ease entry and keep things running without heat or friction. Vegetable shortening (i.e. Crisco) or commercial mineral-oil based preparations are the only lubricants that hold up properly for this activity. (Frank Rourke recommends against mineral-oil based lubes. This is the secondmost popular use of Crisco after baking, and a can of Crisco is a welcome gift to a European S&M-er - DMS).

Infection

To avoid infection from HIV virus or other microorganisms, the following precautions should be observed:
  • Tops should always wear latex (not vinyl) examination or surgical gloves. (you can buy them in packs of 12 at most drug stores, and I bought a box of 100 for $13.00 over a year ago - DMS) Household quality gloves are not appropriate. The reason for the gloves is primarily to avoid transference of microorganisms from possible blood or fecal matter from the receiver to the top, through possible minor cuts or under the fingernails. Intact skin is excellent protection. If there are no cuts or sores above the hand, wrist-length gloves should be sufficient. Since oil-based lubricants will break down latex over a period of time, tops should use fresh gloves from time-to-time, especially for long sessions. A small amount of nonoxynol-9 preparations used inside the glove can offer additional protection to the top. Current studies suggest that these preparations can cause irritation to the receiver and should be restricted to use inside the gloves.

  • Lubricants should be allocated in fresh, individual containers each evening and participants should be careful not to expose two receivers to the lubricants from the same container, resulting in contamination. (For my NYE party, I was told to bring my own can. There was a spare, which was dipped out into individual disposable cups to try it out - it was a "store brand". Crisco or Wesson is better - DMS)

  • Both parties should be careful that any seminal emissions not come in contact with mucous membranes of the other party.
  • All surfaces, toys, enema equipment or other involved items should be kept clean using bacterial scrubs or other appropriate cleansing methods (boiling, clorox bleach, running through a dishwasher cycle, using condoms on toys, etc - DMS) Tops should never use the same gloves on two people and should be careful to wash up completely after every experience.

  • Receivers should never participate in other anal sexual activity for at least several days after handballing (Bill at the NY Eve party on Tuesday night had been done Sunday, and twice on NY Eve, without any harm. He's been receiving for some time though - DMS)

Drug addiction

Unfortunately, many handballers choose the additional stimulation of heavy drugs to enhance their sensation. Most dangerous of these drugs is crystal (i.e. methamphetamines, speed, crank). There is little material published about this drug and a great deal of misinformation in the streets.
(A long list of statements against crank listed, all leading up to "don't use it" - I'll summarize - DMS)
  • 30-60% of handballers are already addicted to it, but most deny it.

  • highly compromising to the immune system.

  • radical adverse personality changes.

  • once-a-month use for 6 months is a definite sign of addiction. The inability to go two months without an intense biological need is another sign.

  • makes the receiver oblivious of pain. Almost all serious injury to handballers is associated with crystal use. Tops using it aren't safe for their bottoms either.

  • significantly rots the teeth, which can also result in malnutrition.
    (end of paraphrase/summary - DMS)

Other chemicals

Besides crystal, handballers often use other chemicals to augment their play (ie smoke, poppers, alcohol). These chemicals also have their adverse affects. Participants who decide to involve such chemicals in their play, should use them sparingly and make a point of informing themselves (and their partners - DMS) of the risks that might be involved.

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